Relationships:Friendship and Dating

How to Do Everything

• Be Happy - Happiness has different meanings for everyone; we each have to define and seek it for ourselves.

      Steps

1. Figure out what is important to you in life. For example: Do you value a certain kind of job; material things; a relationship; time alone or with others; time to relax or to be creative; time to read, listen to music or have fun? These are just few of the possibilities.

2. Think about times when you have felt happy, good or content. Where were you? Whom were you with? What were you doing, thinking or feeling that made you feel happy?

3. Decide to make more time in your life to do more of what is important to you and makes you feel happier. To be happy, you have to make happiness a priority in your life.

4. Start with little things and work up to bigger ones. Little thins might include reading an engrossing book for 15 minutes; taking a walk; calling a friend; or buying great-smelling soap, shampoo, candles or tea that you will enjoy every time you use it.

 5. Focus on what is positive about yourself, others and life in general instead of dwelling on the negative. In a journal, write down as many positive things as you can think of. Keep it handy to read over, and continue adding to it.

6. Appreciate what is working in your life right now. In the major areas of your life, such as your health, job, love life, friends, family, money, faith and living situation, what is going well?

• Tips - Ask other people, "What makes you happy?" or "What is something that makes you feel good?"

              It's OK to ask for professional help. Talk to someone such as a psychotherapist, career counselor or spiritual 
              adviser (minister or teacher) to help you sort out what would make you happy.
     
              Read books on the subject of happiness. Wise people have been writing about it for hundreds of years. In the 
              bookstore, look under psychology, spiritual and seek ye first.

              And lastly, always smile wherever you go. :)